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If They Don’t Enhance You, They Are Draining You: Time To Evaluate Your Circle!

*Pre-Warning* This blog post is filled with some hard truths that you may not be ready to read.

“May the odds be ever in your favor.”

Fine, Honey Bunches. Enough with Hunger Games.

I’ll be serious!

I want you to do me a favor.

Get a sheet of paper and a pen.

Then, write down a list of all the people who you call your friends.

Now, don’t go looking through your Facebook account!

I am talking about the real people who you actually know and may have exchanged intimate information about one another.

These are the individuals you’ve been connected to since elementary, middle school, high school or college.

Go ahead.

Write down your clique, crew, or squad.

I’ll wait!


Now, that you’re finished let’s evaluate your inner circle:

I’m going to ask you a few questions.

Pretty much, you will give a yes or no response.

In order to get accurate results, make sure to answer honestly! 😀

If the answer applies to a friend, give the person(s) a point.

Are you ready?

Okay, answer the following:

Do you feel at ease sharing uncomfortable and personal information to this person?

Is this person encouraging when you’re experiencing growth?

Do you regularly pray for this person?

Do they regularly pray for/with you?

Can you depend on this person in an unexpected situation?

Has this person been loyal to you?

Do you feel this person accepts you even when you’re not having the best day?

Does this person encourage you to growth and not cater to your bad habits?

Can you honestly say you trust this person?

Are you a better person since knowing this friend?

Before we discuss your answers, I want to share with you why it’s important for us to regularly evaluate our inner circle.

Now, this may be a harsh reality to some of you, but I want you to keep an open mind as you read the following:

Who we choose to be around determines what we will eventually become.

Yesterday, I came across this meme on social media.

My initial response was simple, I laughed.

Now, don’t judge. But, I did!

I laughed because I love the way us, believers, have great sense of humor.

Then, my reality started to sink in.

God has blessed me with some really amazing faith-filled people!

There are times when life challenges their beliefs, but I can proudly say my circle is filled with people who the enemy fears.

And, in the moment of reading that meme I had to thank God for each of them.

I remember there was a time in my life where I prayed for people who now surround me.

I’d been in relationships where either myself or the persons that I was connected to was draining.

Any time we were around one another, we would either talk about people or talk about things we wanted to do without any encouragement to actually do it.

Yeah, it was toxic toxic!

And, my excuse for staying connected to the people was due to time.

I’m sure you may have felt that way about someone.

Or, if that person is on your current list I want to encourage you.

The disadvantage of continuing a toxic friendship is you will not be able to fully flourish the more you stay connected to them.


It’s simple:

Having a friend who doesn’t sharpen you will dull you.

Proverbs 27:17 says it best, “As iron sharpens iron, so a friend sharpens a friend”.

In order to flourish in life, it requires for us to be sharpen. If we are connected to someone who isn’t sharpening us, they will help us to prolong the journey to a life of abundance.

Now, let’s go back to your list!

If you haven’t figure out already, your true friend(s) or Godly friend(s) should have received most if not all a point (yes response) to every question.

I can not say this enough: it’s so important of who’s around us during our journeys of living a surrendered life to God!

There will be times where we do not feel strong enough to keep going. We will experience moments where we do not feel like to keep praying.

Like in the above meme, life will throw something our way and our friend’s faith may be the only way we can get closer to Jesus.

Check your circle!

Friendship Nuggets!

Regularly evaluate your Circle. Think of this like going to your yearly doctor’s exam! Have routine checkups on your Circle with regular evaluations. Ask yourself the above questions often making sure you’re always aware of who adding or taking away value in your life.

My prayer is that you find wisdom in your friendship results and seek God within your Circle. I pray that God surrounds you with a Godly community as you continue your surrendered life journey!

Today’s Blog Post is dedicated to My Great 8!

You saw me at my worst and add value to my life. I am better because of you ❤️

Writer: BG

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