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Single, Again?

Updated: Apr 28, 2023

As we are learning to seek wisdom and direction, help us to realize our growth state.

We are planted, not buried.

This is the season of total surrender to you God.

Everything we do, we are going to glorify you.

God, guide our steps.

Help us to grow in communication and understanding.

Give us the wisdom on how to move forward in life with us allowing you to lead.

God, send Godly people in our lives to hold us accountable and pour knowledge of you in us.

God, I thank you in advance for all these things.

We will continue to trust in you and only you.

In Jesus holy name.


When God is speaking, it’s up to us to listen and apply.

It’s been a couple of months since I’ve been away from the dating scene.

And, I’m not ready to venture back.

Despite some encouragement to move on and casually date I can honestly say it’s not that easy.

Forming a bond with someone who I intentionally shared life with is a bit difficult to pretend they no longer exist or forcing myself to enter new bonds will only create unnecessary pressures.

To be honest, I don’t know what God’s plans are for my love life.

As I wait, I prefer to keep allowing God to heal me, confidently live out my purpose, conquer long forgotten goals, and wait until it’s time for God to tell me “Girl, look up! There’s your Paul!”.

(I will explain this later, keep reading!)

Flashback five years ago, when I would find myself single again I would rush into situationships to distract my mind from the fact that I was alone.

Through the following years, I would enter into the next randevú repeating the same “scenes” from the previous.

They were different people who possessed same character flaws.

Likewise, I was an older me carrying the same trauma.

Certain traumas I felt no longer attached to me would eventually appear.

Like the saying goes, “you are who you date”.

The end result never changed : I needed to stop trying to make people love my brokenness and allow God to make me whole.

Before the break up, I fasted for months (six months to be exact!).

Each month, I asked God to show me how to be a wife and mother.

At the time, my ex boyfriend was talking about marriage.

I eagerly wanted to be a part of his infinity and beyond.

I knew what marriage looked like in my family, but I wanted God to rightfully establish our union.

Therefore, I secretly fasted and prayed to God seeking wisdom.

I’d always prayed for my ex boyfriend, but I prayed even more for him.

Can I tell you what God revealed to me? Let me heal first.

It had been over two years of my ex and I intentionally dating.

Like any relationship, we had our ups and downs, but I wasn’t ready for what God was telling me.

The way He wanted to heal would require something I didn’t want to let go: my ex.

His plans are to prosper us, not harm us.

The thing is when seeking God’s truth, we have to be ready for it to test our faith.

If not, we will find ourselves constructing plans that will eventually crumble!

I wasn’t ready for how God wanted me to allow Him to heal.

I continued praying and fasting in hopes that maybe God was talking to the wrong daughter!

So, it didn’t come to my surprise when I ended the fast my ex told me, “I want to be single.”

Jeremiah 29:11 states, For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the LORD, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.

If I say this journey has been easy, I wouldn’t be telling the truth.

There are times where I don’t know what or how to pray.

Any time I feel myself feeling low or questioning God’s plan, I reach out to my inner circle of Godly women. (Deeper Roots, Single Again, and my besties I love you ladies!! ).

As I mentioned, I’m unsure what the future holds, but I really believe greater is coming!

In fact, I made a commitment to God.

I promised God I am choosing to not entertain new romantic relationships or be pursued by anyone for a certain amount of time.

I’ve even found myself interested in the apostle Paul’s story.

My prayer is for my husband to experience a Saul to Paul transformation!

Like myself, I believe my husband is pursuing his purpose, no longer running away from God’s plan, living a life of total surrender, unashamed of speaking his truth to heal others, and will listen when God says, “Bruh, that’s her! There’s your Rahab! ”

Don’t judge us 😃

Relationship Nuggets!

Don’t wait when God speaks. Listen and apply!

Be ready for what you pray because it will reveal what you need to do.

One of the biggest lies the enemy tell us is to keep the hurt to ourselves.

In order for us to heal from the hurt, we need to let it go!

We don’t have to do this alone!

It’s time for us to learn to trust people to pray for us when we can’t find the words to say.

God blesses our obedience!

Where we are right now is the perfect location for God to bring our miracle.

Keep on praying!

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Stay empowered, Honey Bunches! See you next, Wednesday! 💞

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